my theropist asked why was i there.because my wife cheated on me i said.and i started telling her the story.she said out loud whta i have been internaliseing all along.adiction.she sid it seems more like an adiction.shes right.is emotional adiction the same as love? iam emotionaly dependent on mel.and that cant be good.thats not love.i guess i love her underneith the adiction.but i am adicted.and i have to break free from that.i will continue the marriage theropy.sinc it has some time in it still.but,i know where this is going.i ant change her any more than i can say iam not adicted.so if she wont truely change,and the adiction continues.then whats at stake here is my integrity.i must maintain that.so that my son never ever has to see how weak one can be for someone who clearly is all wrong for them.